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Quarter 1 Week 11

Emotional Regulation and the Power of Pause

情緒調節與停頓的力量 · Right Effort · Vīrya 正精進

本週重點

Overview

💬 English Goal

英文目標

Use action verbs for managing emotions: stop, breathe, inhale, exhale, choose, manage. Master the affirmation “I am in control of my emotions / words / actions.” and the plan pattern “When I feel X, I will Y.” Describe feelings with adjectives like calm, stressed, overwhelmed.

使用管理情緒的動作動詞:stop(停下)、breathe(呼吸)、inhale(吸氣)、exhale(吐氣)、choose(選擇)、manage(管理)。熟練肯定句「I am in control of my emotions / words / actions.(我能掌控我的情緒/言語/行為。)」以及計畫句型「When I feel X, I will Y.(當我覺得 X,我就會 Y。)」用形容詞描述感受,例如 calm(平靜)、stressed(有壓力)、overwhelmed(招架不住)。

🪷 Spiritual Goal

佛學/心靈目標

Apply Right Effort (Vīrya 正精進) to transform and manage strong emotions. Understand and practice nonreaction (不反應) — choosing calm instead of reacting — and cultivate the inner peace that prepares the heart for Ahimsa (non-violence).

運用正精進(Right Effort,Vīrya)來轉化和管理強烈的情緒。理解並練習不反應(nonreaction)——選擇平靜而非衝動反應——並培養為慈悲心鋪路、面向不害(Ahimsa,非暴力)的內在平靜。

單字 Vocabulary

點 🔊 聽發音

聽、跟著念、大聲說三次。

inhale(v.)吸氣
exhale(v.)呼氣
nonreaction(n.)不反應
strategy(n.)策略
calm(adj.)平靜的
stressed(adj.)壓力大的
overwhelmed(adj.)不知所措的
manage(v.)管理/處理

句型 Sentence Patterns

Key Patterns
Pattern 1 · Taking control
I am in control of my ___.

I am in control of my emotions. I am in control of my emotions.(我能掌控我的情緒。)

I am in control of my words and my actions. I am in control of my words and my actions.(我能掌控我的言語和行為。)

Pattern 2 · Making a calm plan
When I feel ___, I will ___.

When I feel angry, I will stop and breathe. When I feel angry, I will stop and breathe.(當我覺得生氣,我會停下來,深呼吸。)

When I feel stressed, I will inhale slowly and exhale. When I feel stressed, I will inhale slowly and exhale.(當我覺得有壓力,我會慢慢吸氣,再吐氣。)

Pattern 3 · Choosing nonreaction & strategies
Instead of ___, I choose to ___. / I manage stress by ___.

Instead of arguing, I choose to stop and breathe. Instead of arguing, I choose to stop and breathe.(我選擇停下來深呼吸,而不是爭吵。)

I manage stress by listening to music. I manage stress by listening to music.(我用聽音樂來管理壓力。)

✏️ Grammar Focus · “by” + verb-ing for methods

To say how we do something, we use “by + verb-ing.” I manage stress by playing sports. · She calms down by reading. Notice the -ing ending after by. With “When I feel X, I will Y,” we use the simple present after when and will for the plan: When I feel overwhelmed, I will breathe slowly.

要說明我們「怎麼」做某件事,我們用「by + 動詞-ing」:I manage stress by playing sports.(我用運動來管理壓力。)、She calms down by reading.(她靠閱讀讓自己平靜下來。)注意 by 後面的動詞要加 -ing。在「When I feel X, I will Y.」句型裡,when 後面用現在簡單式,計畫的部分用 will:When I feel overwhelmed, I will breathe slowly.(當我覺得招架不住,我會慢慢呼吸。)

故事 The Story

Story

Imagine a small pond in a quiet garden. When the water is still, you can look down and see everything clearly — the stones, the fish, the sky reflected like a mirror. This is the mind that is calm (平靜的心,像平靜的池塘).

想像一座安靜花園裡有一個小池塘(pond)。當水靜止不動時,你往下看就能把一切看得清清楚楚——石頭、魚兒,還有像鏡子一樣倒映的天空。這就是平靜(calm)的心(平靜的心,像平靜的池塘)。

Now imagine a child throws a stone into the pond. Splash! The water jumps, ripples spread everywhere, and the surface becomes messy. Suddenly you cannot see clearly at all. A strong feeling — anger, stress, or being overwhelmed — is just like that stone. It makes the mind react, and everything becomes cloudy.

現在想像一個小孩朝池塘丟了一顆石頭。撲通!水花跳起來,漣漪向四面散開,水面變得一片混亂。突然間你什麼都看不清楚了。一個強烈的情緒——生氣、壓力,或是招架不住(overwhelmed)——就像那顆石頭。它讓心起反應(react),一切都變得模糊。

But here is the secret: you do not have to throw another stone back. You can stop. You can inhale slowly, and exhale slowly. You can focus on your heartbeat and wait. Little by little the ripples fade, and the water becomes still again. This waiting — not reacting — is called nonreaction (不反應). With the steady power of Right Effort (Vīrya), you choose calm, and you see clearly once more.

但這裡有個祕訣:你不必再丟一顆石頭回去。你可以停下來(stop)。你可以慢慢吸氣(inhale),慢慢吐氣(exhale)。你可以專注在自己的心跳上,靜靜等待。漸漸地,漣漪退去,水面又恢復平靜。這種等待——不去反應——就叫做不反應(nonreaction,不反應)。憑著正精進(Right Effort,Vīrya)那份穩定的力量,你選擇平靜,於是再次看得清清楚楚。

🤔 Check your understanding

  • What happens to the pond when you throw in a stone? 丟石頭進池塘會發生什麼事?
  • What is the “stone” in our minds? 我們心中的「石頭」是什麼?
  • How can you make the water calm again? 你要如何讓水再次平靜?

佛法小品 The Principle

Principle

Strong feelings are not “bad.” The skill is the pause between the feeling and what we do next — Stop, Breathe, Choose.

強烈的感受並不「壞」。真正的功夫,是在感受和我們接下來的行動之間,那個停頓——停下、呼吸、選擇(Stop, Breathe, Choose)。

🌟 Mindful restraint, the Middle Way 中道的克制

Right Effort (Vīrya 正精進) is the steady energy we use to calm a stormy mind. When a strong feeling arrives, we do not push it down by force, and we do not let it explode. We simply stop, breathe (inhale and exhale slowly), and then choose a kind response. This is nonreaction (不反應): the small, brave act of not throwing the stone back. Controlling our own anger is already a quiet act of Ahimsa — non-violence toward ourselves and others — which is exactly where next week’s path begins.

正精進(Vīrya,正精進)是我們用來安定狂亂之心的那股穩定能量。當強烈的感受來臨,我們不用力把它壓下去,也不讓它爆發出來。我們只是停下來(stop)、呼吸(breathe,慢慢吸氣、吐氣),然後選擇(choose)一個善的回應。這就是不反應(不反應):不把石頭丟回去,這個微小卻勇敢的舉動。掌控自己的怒氣,本身就已經是一種安靜的不害(Ahimsa)——對自己和對別人的非暴力——而這正是下週課程要開始的地方。

練習 Practice

Homework

Each day this week, write about one moment when you felt a strong emotion, and how you used Stop, Breathe, Choose to practice nonreaction. Choose the tier that fits you. 每天記錄一次強烈情緒,並寫下你如何「停、吸、選」。

Beginner 入門

3 short sentences

Ages 5–8 · new learners
Write a situation (1 sentence), an action using stop and breathe (1 sentence), and the affirmation (1 sentence).
寫出一個情境 situation(1 句),一個用 stop 和 breathe 的行動 action(1 句),還有那句肯定句 affirmation(1 句)。
ExampleI felt angry at my toys. I stopped and took a deep breath. I am in control of my hands.
Intermediate 中級

Nonreaction & strategy

Ages 9–12 · developing fluency
Describe a situation that needed nonreaction (1 sentence), explain the calm strategy you chose (2 sentences), and add a control sentence with “I am in control of…”
描述一個需要不反應的情境 situation(1 句),說明你選擇的平靜策略 strategy(2 句),再加一句用「I am in control of…(我能掌控……)」的掌控句。
ExampleMy friend was rude to me in class. I chose nonreaction instead of arguing. I decided to listen to music to calm down. I am in control of my feelings and my voice.
Advanced 進階

Vīrya & Ahimsa link

Ages 13–16 · fluent speakers
Analyze a complex, overwhelming situation (1 sentence), then write a Vīrya response (3–4 sentences) explaining your breathing technique and how this control links to Ahimsa. Note your personal strategy.
分析一個複雜、令人招架不住(overwhelming)的情境(1 句),然後寫一段正精進回應(Vīrya response,3–4 句),說明你的呼吸方法,以及這份掌控如何連結到不害(Ahimsa)。記下你個人的策略 strategy。
ExampleWhen I felt overwhelmed by school deadlines, I wanted to yell. I used Right Effort to stop myself. I inhaled for four counts and exhaled for six. Controlling my anger is a small act of Ahimsa toward my family. Singing a happy song helped me feel calm again.

小考 Mini Quiz

Check Yourself

選出最適合的答案,點選後會看到解析。

Question 1 of 10
Which word means “吸氣 / to breathe in”?
Correct: C. Inhale = to breathe in (吸氣). Exhale = to breathe out (呼氣).
Question 2 of 10
Complete the affirmation: “I ___ in control of my emotions.”
Correct: A. The pattern is “I am in control of ___.” Use am with I.
Question 3 of 10
What does nonreaction (不反應) mean?
Correct: D. Nonreaction means we pause and choose calm instead of reacting — not the same as hiding or running away.
Question 4 of 10
Finish the plan: “When I feel angry, I will ___.”
Correct: B. After “I will” we use the base verb: stop and breathe. This is the calm choice.
Question 5 of 10
Choose the correct way to say your method.
Correct: A. The pattern is “by + verb-ing”: by playing sports.
Question 6 of 10
In the story, the calm pond is like a mind that is…
Correct: C. When the pond is still, you can see clearly — that is the calm, clear mind.
Question 7 of 10
In the story, the “stone” thrown into the pond stands for…
Correct: B. A strong feeling is like a stone that makes the mind ripple and lose its clarity.
Question 8 of 10
“Right Effort” (Vīrya) in this lesson means…
Correct: D. Vīrya is the steady, kind effort to pause and choose a calm response — the Middle Way.
Question 9 of 10
Which word means “不知所措的 / having too much to handle”?
Correct: A. Overwhelmed (不知所措的) means a feeling is too big to handle. Calm is the opposite.
Question 10 of 10
Why is controlling your anger a small act of Ahimsa (non-violence)?
Correct: D. When we pause instead of reacting, we prevent harsh words and harm — a quiet step toward Ahimsa.